Why is it that we pressure people who are different from us to be the same as us?
What is it about our view that makes us think that we are the right one?
And why do we persist in engaging in behaviors that don't work? Even when we have used them over and over and they never worked the first time, let alone the fifteenth.
We humans are odd. If an animal is frustrated, they will try all sorts of different behaviors, trying to find the one that gets them the outcome they are looking for. When people are frustrated, they revert to behaviors that often are self-sabotaging. And it is a rare one who learns from their mistakes. Mostly, we just repeat them.